This came up after seeing a post on link referral forum regarding why Adult sites get such a bad rap?! She said her site was tasteful and she sold sex toys at parties and online and such. i agree that is tasteful ad done with class. It does deal with adult subject matter and content tho so could be placed in this category. Unfortunately there are many porn sites under this heading too which is not positive. Porn can be very unhealthy and addictive the way it is marketed by men generally for men. Is negative for all concerned except for producers,photographers and mobsters who make the real $. Many runaways are used in this industry for snuff films as noone wil notice them when they go missing. This biz makes it's $ from the flesh of people who are addicted to sex. Usually they were abused as kids,had low self esteem or few friends and were manipulated into the business by men who said they could make quick cash. Often they get addicted to it or on drugs and have to support habit by doing it.
Now the industry has become big business thanks to Jenna Jameson and the like. There are few like Jenna tho and most are corrupted and used by the business. Society gets off to the graphic images they see on film. We see the smiling beautiful faces and gorgeous bodies of thiese women. We do not see the clymidia on the set,them dying from aids, drugs and violence. You might want to think of that the next time you visit a strip club or buy a video. Who are these girls,women? They are us and our children. They are not trash and whores. Putting them in a box with a label is an easy way to deal with them so we can objectify them.
The link above tho is to an adult toy store and is tastefully done. It is for you and your lover,g/f,b/f or spouse. SEx here is presented in a positive light and not a degradng one.
Post below from Link Referral Forum:
Post By: member_46638 Post Date: 2007-04-12 00:20:34
name: Ann
location: New York, United States
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her site has adult subject matter and toys which many use as well as many read and view the magazines like Playboy etc. There is nothing wrong with this. I think many need to loosen up a bit around sex and also bring it to the open as when we don't discuss it in the home and little is taught on it in school one grows up feeling badly around it. It can be enjoyable. Don't let otehrs' hang ups effect you in life and in the bed room. Be self and do waht you are comfortable with. Some are afraid to be seen buying a condom or asking for them at a pharmacy. Tell me waht is more embarrassing,having aids or getting a condom?! There comes a point where we need to do waht have to do and not worry so much about waht others think as who are they? what do they do for us? If they don't approve of waht we do or say than they don't like us for us anyway and maybe just maybe we shouldn't be around them for our own Mental health.
The sites listed here are all thrown together under Adult heading implying porn, eventhough some are cam sites which are soft core and involve self only from home. Many play on cam and im each other on pc for entertainment anyway. Sites that sell sexy photos,lingerie,toys and do cam chat are not porn.
I believe if site is under adult then people going to such a site should bear this in mind before they enter and not give it a bad review because shows some nudity,video clips to get one to join,buy photos,videos or a cam show.
They know exactly what they are getting when they go there. As ADULTS we have the option to cahnge the channel. The same is true on web. Move on different strokes for different folks (pun intended) ha!
Again sites selling adult toys would do better under miscellaneous general. Have also seen them under health/general as sex is a bodily function and is a healthy thing providing persons involved are responsible,respectful and honest with each other. It is not love, it is just sex,a primal urge. Took me years to figure taht one out as a woman along with a woman's approach to it is generally different than a man's as she has more to lose. Toys are a lot safer way to go than bieng hurt emotionally,physically,diseaased,pregnancy,abortion,addicton and feeling badly after if man hits the road. There is still a double standard for women. Men lose respect for a woman when they get it What about them?! They do not seem to lose respect for selves. Who did se just sleep with ?! She didn't do it alone! Women even call women who are not invoved and date and have sex sluts too. They oppress each other. Is a sexist view. Yes sexism like gay bashing and racism is still alive and well. Not sure what women are to do if have needs and men don't want a commitment. Be with an awful man just to have someone? CAveman,when we were treated as chattle and owned by men,had dowries to be married off,no rights are over. Why many are living alone now adays. Yes, it gets lonely some times but is better than the alternative. I think of this as I sit on my toilet and don't fall in because a guy left it up,yes as I sleep in my bed with noone snoring next to me. Or even farting during sex. Yes my toy looks better and better. There is no Prince Charming altho many are sold on the Cinderella complex and expect to be saved and want to depend on a man,who is out for himself. We even give the book to little girls to perpetuate the myth. I don't look at the fashion magazines anymore except when in a super market now for free and I look at the clothing not the anorexic chicks. I don't care to look at the articles on how to keep a man,how to keep him in the bed and so on...What about him pleasing me? It's a two way street. Alot of women waste too much energy trying to snag a guy. Both play games and in the end may be surprised to see who they really got. Then is the trick to see if you want to keep it going or run.
I tried having it like a man as I had my own $ and apt and took care of self. Some thought badly of me but weren't me and I had my reasons for doing this as I had been hurt in relationships so got the closeness and sex but without the commitment and having to please another and have to deal with the whole expectation thing. I also had a feminist view of it. What was good for the goose was good for the gander. We are all human and aren't gonna change for another. Best to care for one as is and hope the other does with you inspite of warts. It was not society taht stopped this behaviour but myself who decided this is dangerous,not healthy spiritually or physically. Oh by the way that goes for a man as well as for a woman. * there is a trend with young people in teens and twenties having casual sex even now discusses in Psychoogy Today on sex on link on first page of my site. I am about Tolerance and self respect and love as I am not as you think I should be. TAke out log in your eye before yo worry about the speck in mine! Every action has a reaction. Do good and good will return to you. Karma. Avoid People places and things where act out,also critical people and work a program for waht ails you and I think is a good prescription for everyone who lives on this planet now. de nile = denial is not just a river in Egypt.
I deal with my past and live now with God. He died for me and I am forgiven but I am human so I will not do it perfectly. I do not turn my back on it but have learned from it as made me who I am. When we are young we are just trying to find out who we are and want to do with our lives. Is not easy and can get lost in other people's stuff. Why I keep to self as I like to hear myself think. I also don't want to be influenced by the wrong people.
I love me,respect me and understand me and when I am talked about or criticized by others who don't understand waht I am about I forgive em so my anger is less so not as depressed. I also am not as fearful of others as walk with God and know I am his child and am beautiful as I am. Taht is my focus and not others who are entitled to their views. MYOB=Mind your own business.
To thine own self be true and you can not be false to any man.
I have a friend and spend time with him. This is how i live my life for now for me. Maybe one day I will meet a real nonjudgemental man who likes waht I am about and can deal with it and me. Til then I need a man like a fish needs a bicycle. Be self and have a life and spend time if person is nice to you not because you think you have to have someone. It is better to be alone, (and by that I mean can have friends but not in relationship).. for the right reasons than with some Body for the wrong..is not fair to you or them in the long run.
